From Anxious Attachment to Secure
- Understand where your anxious attachment comes from
- Calm the spiral when someone pulls away
- Stop chasing reassurance and start trusting yourself
- Recognise and choose secure love
“I finally understand why I react the way I do. And what to do instead.”
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About the book
You check your phone again. Nothing. You reread your last message, wonder if it was too much, and feel the familiar knot in your stomach. You know this pattern. You just don’t know how to get out of it.
From Anxious Attachment to Secure brings together years of research on attachment and nervous-system regulation with what actually worked in Julie’s own healing. No jargon, no shame. Just clear explanations and practical tools you can use the next time the spiral starts.
Readers are breaking the cycle
I finally understand why I react the way I do when someone goes quiet. And more importantly, what to do instead.
It reads like a friend who has been through it and did the research for you. I underlined half the book.
The chapter on protest behaviours was a punch in the gut, in the best way. I stopped double-texting within a week.
Clear, warm, zero judgement. I keep it on my nightstand for the bad nights.
I’ve read a lot about attachment. This is the first book that made me feel understood instead of diagnosed.
Practical, honest and surprisingly hopeful. My partner noticed the difference before I did.
What’s inside
01.Understanding Anxious Attachment
Understand where your anxious attachment comes from. Explore its causes, signs and triggers, and see how your past shapes the way you love today.
02.The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
Discover how your subconscious and your self-concept shape your thoughts, choices and reactions, and spot the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in anxiety and overthinking.
03.Techniques to Rewire Your Brain
Learn practical, research-based techniques to rewire the patterns behind anxiety, confirmation bias and negative beliefs about yourself.
04.The Middle Way
Step away from emotional extremes and find your inner balance. Nervous system regulation, emotional regulation and impermanence help you meet insecurity with calm.
05.Writing Therapy
Guided writing prompts all through the book help you explore your inner child, your wounds and your needs, and rebuild a stronger sense of emotional security, page after page.
The companion ebook
Guided exercises and prompts to practise everything in the book, one week at a time. $19.99. Join the list to hear first.
Questions
Who is this book for?
Anyone who overthinks in relationships, needs a lot of reassurance, or feels panic when someone pulls away. You don’t need to be in a relationship to read it.
Is this therapy?
No. It’s a self-help book based on research and lived experience. It can be a great companion to therapy, but it doesn’t replace it.
Can my attachment style really change?
Yes. Research calls it “earned security”: with awareness, practice and safe relationships, people move toward secure attachment at any age.
Ebook or paperback?
Same content. The paperback ships via Amazon; the ebook is sold here as an instant download you can read on your phone, tablet or computer.
How do I get the ebook after buying?
You’ll get a download link right away and by email. You can download it again whenever you need.
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