A book for the part of you that waits by the phone.
Most people know their pattern. The hard part is knowing what to do when it shows up. Secure in Self exists to close that gap with clear explanations, honest stories and tools you can actually use.
Understanding is the first step. Feeling safe takes practice.
- 1Understand itLearn what is driving the pattern.
- 2Catch itNotice the spiral before it takes over.
- 3Rewire itBuild new, calmer ways to respond.
Meet Julie Duchêne
Julie didn’t set out to write a book. She set out to understand why a single unanswered message could ruin her whole day.
After a particularly toxic relationship left her anxious, hypervigilant and unsure of her own worth, she started reading everything she could find on attachment (research papers, clinical books, case studies) and began working with a therapist. Six years later, she’s still in therapy, still curious, and far more secure.
From Anxious Attachment to Secure is what came out of those years: the research she wishes someone had handed her, translated into plain words and practical steps, alongside what genuinely changed things in her own life. She’s 29, and she writes for anyone who’s tired of loving from a place of fear.